International Adopters’ Secret Sign August 30, 2006
Posted by Snow Monkey in Adoption.trackback
Almost every day, ZGirl and I walk past a house that’s about a block away from our own. A white couple lives there. They seem like nice people; they say hello when we pass. The husband looks a lot like Anderson Cooper (to us, this is a good thing—we’ve been fond of Anderson Cooper since his days as host of The Mole).
Long before we started our own adoption process, we noticed that these neighbors have an Asian-American daughter. Could it be that they adopted internationally?
Maybe. Make that probably. ZGirl and I can’t be certain, however, because we’ve never asked them. We’ve been tempted, of course, but we’re reluctant to invade their privacy (do unto others…).
If there were a secret sign that international adopters used to identify themselves to one another, then we would know.
Unless, of course, there is a sign and we have not learned it yet.
When I hear about all the stupid comments folks say to families that have adopted, I just dont want to be that person. So, a sign would help. I could flash them a sign and if they responded, I would know they were cool. If not, I wiould wonder if the dad over there is a “new” dad.
Yeah, I don’t want to be “that person,” either.
how about the old “mano cornuta”: \m/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Corna
If they laugh or nod, you’re in.
Yeah, but they might think that I’m a Slayer fan.
Come to think of it, I did own a Slayer album in my younger days…
You don’t get the secret sign til you get the kid, silly. THEN you get let in on all the secrets.
Here’s the sign. White couple, Asian/African/Latino-American kid(s) walking in public venue – park, say, or maybe Target; other people stealing furtively curious glances their way, one old lady who finally has enough and hollers, “them yer kids?” When all four of the couple’s eyes roll back in their heads, you’ve seen the sign. It will only last for a split-second, as they will recover quickly, remembering that they must respond in a way that sends a positive message to their children, who are looking at the old lady as if she is obviously suffering from dementia – why WOULDN’T they be their parents’ kids? Their response will, of course, vary, depending on the number of hours of sleep they got the night before, how much whining they have recently endured and how many times they had to say NO to said children in said store.
You’ll understand. Trust me.
Monkeyhead
I sort of imagined that…
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